The Love Standard: The ultimate ingredient for transforming self and society

The search for the Good Life. Governments of many nations are going through very tough challenges some of which threaten the legitimacy (acceptance of authority and popularity) of the leaders and their administration. Citizens of many nations have lived through cycles of avoidable recessions that linger on. The senseless war in Syria and the rising tension between Israel and Palestine makes the prospects of peace in the Middle East very far-fetched not to talk of the nefarious activities of the so-called Islamic State A.K.A ISIS; a poster child of radical Islamic terrorism and its affiliates in Africa (Boko Haram in Nigeria and Alshabab in Kenya). Everywhere you go; there is a general sense of hopelessness and despair.

 

“The illustrious search for the Good Life require a counter-intuitive approach altogether because for us to transform the society, we ourselves in essence must be changed”

 

The challenges are monumental and create national, regional, continental and global consequences. Recent terrorist linked attacks in Paris, Brussels and the perpetual instability in many other places create a very grim image of the world. Despite all these challenges and there are certainly more, mankind continue to hope for and strive to achieve the ideal world devoid of every form of pain. This piece is an attempt to offer an alternative way for the society to transform because we cannot continue along this path of self-destruction. Several ideas have been paraded as silver bullets but the spate of madness continues unabated.  The solution to this epic quagmire will never be found in the charter of the United Nations (UN) neither will any lasting solution come from the esteemed citadels of learning or from ivory towers but from the ancient wisdom which is available to us even today.  The illustrious search for the Good Life require a counter-intuitive approach altogether because for us to transform the society, we ourselves in essence must be changed.

 


“Not all type of change is good and so the key question to ask then is, to what extent are the pockets of changes prognostic of a greater future for all?”

 

The Transforming Society. We live in extraordinary times unprecedented in human history.  At this very moment, there is a convergence of multiple controversial ideas from different quarters of the society. The rise of feminist movements that assert the right of women folk and the equality of all sexes and its unintended consequence of gradual decimation of manosphere, the meteoric rise of Lesbians, Gay, Bisexuals and Transgender (LGBT) rights into mainstream society and the deliberate decimation of traditional definition of marriage, the emergence of Barrack Hussein Obama; first Black President of the United State and the subsequent recent emergence of Donald J trump as the 45th President-elect of the United States and the unpredictable cum shifting nature of politics and of human beings. Racial tensions and divide continue to grow. By and large, the Society is changing in undeniably fundamental ways. Not all type of change is good and so the key question to ask then is, to what extent are the pockets of changes prognostic of a greater future for all?

 

“As human beings, we can reflect and contemplate the consequences of our choices. Love is the essential ingredient for positive change and it is based on simple but profound ideas like PATIENCE, CHARITY, KINDNESS, COURTEOUSNESS, TRUST and SELFLESSNESS. Love follows the golden rule that you should treat others the way you want to be treated.

 

The love factor. The hallmark of an educated person is the ability to contemplate; having a conviction but being able to entertain other opposing or contrary views to his own in good faith with good conscience and pleasantness. In today’s world where political correctness seeks to obliterate individuality and the right to have an opinion, we all must be worried. The implication of political correctness is groupthink which out rightly decimates organisations and certainly will destroy any society. As human beings, we can reflect and contemplate the consequences of our choices. Love is the essential ingredient for positive change and it is based on simple but profound ideas like PATIENCE, CHARITY, KINDNESS, COURTEOUSNESS, TRUST and SELFLESSNESS. Love follows the golden rule that you should treat others the way you want to be treated.

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Charisma and Character. Leadership is the singular most profound concept for transforming self and society and while a lot of progress has been made to understand and develop the ability of people and society as a collective to transform, there are yet gaps. One of those gaps shows up in the charismatic approach to leadership where in measuring leaders we tend to focus on the obvious such as the track record of the individual; the material accomplishments (previous academic record, roles and responsibility) of such a person. Ability to communicate and manage amongst other things will also come up as crucial. Society places premium on (productivity) accomplishments which is really nothing wrong but by focusing entirely on these factors, we miss out on a number of very important traits that makes for an effective and transformational leader. The challenge is that while Charisma is up in your face and obvious, Character is a little more subtle. You will have to delve deeper into uncharted territories and sometimes slightly uncomfortable grounds but this is the key to transforming.

 

“It is my utmost conviction that love is the most powerful ingredient in transforming self and society because love is the ultimate key that unlocks the potentials of individuals and societies”.

No longer nebulous. The central theme of this narrative is that love is an essential ingredient for attaining transformation and certainly a core requirement for leadership. The idea that leadership is much more than Charisma is in itself not a novel ideal. Experts in the field of leadership have often considered “softer” factors and this explains why a concept such as “Emotional Intelligence” has gained grounds in the last three decades. I am not aware of an integrated framework for love as a leadership concept; largely because there is no explicit clinical or scientifically codified framework. There are several narratives on charity and how that helps individuals and indeed the society to solve problems and “do good” but the love proposition goes beyond random acts of kindness. Love is a nebulous concept and if it were to become a core element of leadership, there has to be a science behind it. It is my hope that further research effort will be devoted towards developing a codified framework for measuring and developing love. Until such a time, it in my utmost conviction that love is the most powerful ingredient in transforming self and society because love is the ultimate key that unlocks the potentials of individuals and societies.

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